1. Alertness vs. unawareness
Being aware of the physical and
spiritual events taking place around
me so that I can have the right
responses to them.
“But after I have been
raised, I will go before you to
Galilee.” (Mark 14:28)
2. Attentiveness vs. unconcern
Showing the worth of a person by
giving undivided attention to his
words and emotions.
“For this reason we must
pay much closer attention to what
we have heard, lest we drift away
from it.” (Hebrews 2:1)
3. Availability vs. self-centeredness
Adjusting my personal responsibilities
around the needs of those whom I am
serving.
“For I have no one else of
kindred spirit who will genuinely be
concerned for your welfare.” (Philemon 2:20)
4. Boldness vs. fearfulness
Confidence that what I have to say
or do is true and right and just in the
sight of God.
“And now, Lord take note
of their threats, and grant that Thy
bondservant
may speak Thy word
with all confidence.”
(Acts 4:29)
5. Cautiousness vs. rashness
Knowing how important right
timing is in accomplishing right
actions.
“Also it is not good for a
person to be without knowledge,
and he who makes haste with his
feet errs.” (Proverbs 19:2)
6. Compassion vs. indifference
Investing whatever is necessary to
heal the hurts of others.
“But whoever has the
world’s goods, and beholds his
brother in need and closes his heart
against him, how does the love of
God abide in him?”
(1 John 3:17)
7. Contentment vs. covetousness
Realizing God has provided
everything I need for my present
happiness.
“And if we have food and
covering, with these we shall be
content.” (1 Timothy 6:8)
8. Creativity vs. underachievement
Applying God's wisdom and practical
insights to a need or task.
“And do not be conformed
to this world, but be transformed by the
renewing of your mind, that you may
prove what the will of God is, that
which is good and acceptable and
perfect.” (Romans 12:2)
9. Decisiveness vs. double-mindedness
The ability to finalize difficult decisions
based on the will and ways of God.
“But if any of you lacks
wisdom, let him ask God, who gives to
all men generously and without
reproach, and it Will be given to him.” (James 1:5)
10. Deference vs. rudeness
Limiting my freedom to speak and
act in order not to offend the taste
of others.
“It is good not to eat meat
or to drink wine, or to do anything by
which your brother stumbles.” (Romans 14:21)
11. Dependability vs. inconsistency
Fulfilling what I consented to do even if
it means unexpected sacrifice.
“In whose eyes a reprobate is
despised, but who honors those who fear
the lord; He swears to his own hurt, and
does not change.” (Psalm 15:4)
12. Determination vs. faintheartedness
Purposing to accomplish God's goals in
God's timing regardless of the
opposition.
“I have fought the good fight, I have
finished the course, I have kept the faith; in the
future there is laid up for me the crown of
righteousness, which the Lord, the righteous Judge,
will award to me on that day; and not only to me,
but also to all who have loved His appearing.” (2 Timothy 4:7-8)
13. Diligence vs. slothfulness
Visualizing each task as a special
assignment from the Lord and using
all my energies to accomplish it.
“Whatever you do, do
your work heartily, as for the Lord
rather than for men.” (Colossians 3:23)
14. Discernment vs. judgment
The God-given
ability to understand why
things happen to others and to me.
“But the Lord said to Samuel,
'Do not look at his appearance or at the
height of his stature, because I have
rejected him; for God sees not as man
sees, for man looks at the outward
appearance, but the Lord looks at the
heart.” (1 Samuel 16:7)
15. Discretion vs. simplemindedness
The ability to avoid words, actions, and
attitudes which could result in
undesirable consequences.
“The prudent sees the evil
and hides himself, but the naive go
on, and are punished for it.” (Proverbs 22:3)
16. Endurance vs. giving up
The inward strength to withstand
the stress to accomplish God's best.
“And let us not lose heart
in doing good, for in due time we
shall reap if we do not grow
weary.” (Galatians 6:9)
17. Enthusiasm vs. apathy
Expressing with my spirit the joy of
my soul.
“Rejoice always; pray
without ceasing; in everything give
thanks; for this is God's will for you in
Christ Jesus. Do not quench the
Spirit.” (1 Thessalonians 5:15-16)
18. Faith vs. presumption
Visualizing what God intends to do
in a given situation and acting in
harmony with it.
“Now faith is the
assurance of things hoped for, the
conviction of things not seen.”
(Hebrews 11:1)
19. Flexibility vs. resistance
Not setting my affections on ideas
or plans, which could be changed
by God or others.
“Set your mind on the
things above, not on the things that
are on earth.” (Colossians 3:2)
20. Forgiveness vs. rejection
Clearing the record of those who have
wronged me and me allowing God to
love them through me.
“And be kind to one another,
tenderhearted,
forgiving each other,
just as God in Christ also has forgiven
you.” (Ephesians 4:32)
21. Generosity vs. stinginess
Realizing that all I have belongs to God
and using it for His purposes.
“Now this I say, he who
sows sparingly shall also reap
sparingly; and he who sows
bountifully shall also reap
bountifully.” (2 Corinthians 9:6)
22. Gentleness vs. harshness
Showing personal care and concern
in meeting the needs of others.
“But we proved to be
gentle among you, as a nursing
mother tenderly cares for her own
children.” (1 Thessalonians 2:7)
23. Gratefulness vs. un-thankfulness
Making known to God and others in what
ways they have benefited my life.
“For who regards you as
superior? And what do you have that you
did not receive? But if you did receive it,
why do you boast as if you had not
received it?” (1 Corinthians 4:7)
24. Hospitality vs. loneliness
Cheerfully sharing food, shelter, and
spiritual refreshment with those whom
God brings into my life.
“Do not neglect to show
hospitality to strangers, for by this
some have entertained angels
without knowing it.” (Hebrews 13:2)
25. Humility vs. pride
Seeing the contrast between God's
holiness and my sinfulness.
“But he gives a greater
grace. Therefore it says, “God is
opposed to the proud, but gives to
the humble.” (James 4:6)
26. Initiative vs.
unresponsiveness
Recognizing and doing what needs
to be done before I am asked to do
it.
“Do not be overcome by
evil, but overcome evil with good.” (Romans 12:21)
27. Joyfulness vs. self-pity
The result of knowing that God is
perfecting His life in others through
me.
“A joyful heart makes
a cheerful face, but when the heart
is sad, the spirit is broken.” (Proverbs 15:13)
28. Justice vs. fairness
Personal responsibility to God's
unchanging laws.
“He had told you, O man, what
is good; and what does the Lord require
of you but to do justice, to love kindness,
and to walk humbly with your God?” (Micah 6:8)
29. Love vs. selfishness
Giving to others' basic needs without
having personal rewards as my motive.
“And if I give all my
possessions to feed the poor, and if I
deliver my body to be burned, but do not
have love, it profits me nothing.” (1 Corinthians 13:3)
30. Loyalty vs. unfaithfulness
Using difficult times to demonstrate
my commitment to God and to
those whom he has called me to
serve.
“Greater love has no
one than this, that one lay down his
life for his friends.”
(John 15:13)
31. Meekness vs. anger
Yielding my personal rights and
expectations to God.
“My soul, wait in silence
for God only, for my hope is from
him.” (Psalm 62:5)
32. Obedience vs. willfulness
Fulfilling instructions so that God and the one
I am serving will fully be satisfied.
“We are destroying
speculations and every lofty thing
raised up against the knowledge of
God, and we are taking every thought
captive to the obedience of Christ.” (2 Corinthians 10:5)
33. Orderliness vs. disorganization
Arranging my life and surrounding so
that God has maximum freedom to
achieve His goals through me.
“But let all things be done
properly and in an orderly manner.” (1 Corinthians 14:40)
34. Patience vs. restlessness
Accepting a difficult situation from God
without giving Him a deadline to remove it.
“And not only this, but
we also exult in our tribulations,
knowing that tribulation brings
about perseverance; and
perseverance, proved character; and
proven character, hope.” (Romans 5:34)
35. Persuasiveness vs.
contentiousness
Using words, which cause the listener's
spirit to conform that he is hearing truth.
“And the Lord's bondservant
must not be quarrelsome, but be
kind to all, able to teach, patient when
wronged.” (2 Timothy 2:24)
36. Punctuality vs. tardiness
Showing respect for other people
and the limited time that God has
given to them.
“There is an appointed
time for everything. And there is a
time for every event under heaven”
(Ecclesiastes 3:1)
37. Resourcefulness vs. wastefulness
Wise use of that which others would
normally overlook or discard.
“He who is faithful in a very
little thing is faithful also in much; and
he who is unrighteous in a very little
thing is unrighteous also in much.” (Luke 16:10)
38. Responsibility vs.
unreliability
Knowing and doing what God and
others are expecting from me.
“So then each one of us
shall give account of himself to
God.” (Romans 14:12)
39. Reverence vs. disrespect
Awareness of how God is working
through the people and events in my
life to produce the character of
Christ in me.
“Do not let your heart
envy sinners, but live in the fear of
the Lord always.” (Proverbs 23:17)
40. Security vs. anxiety
Structuring my life around what is eternal and
cannot be destroyed or taken away.
“Do not work for the food
which perished, but for the food which
endures to eternal life, which he Son of
Man shall give to you, for on Him the
Father, even God, has set His seal.” (John 6:27)
41. Self-control vs. self-indulgence
Instant obedience to the initial
prompting of God's Spirit.
“Now those who belong to
Christ Jesus have crucified the flesh
with its passions and desires. If we live
by the Spirit, let us also walk by the
Spirit.” (Galatians 5:24-25)
42. Sensitivity vs. callousness
Knowing by the prompting of God's
Spirit what words and actions will
benefit the lives of others.
“Rejoice with those
who rejoice, and weep with those
who weep.” (Romans 12:15)
43. Sincerity vs. hypocrisy
Eagerness to do what is right with
transparent motives.
“Since you have in
obedience to the truth purified your
souls for a sincere love of the
brethren, fervently love one another
from the heart.” (1 Peter 1:22)
44. Thriftiness vs. extravagance
Not letting myself or others spend that
which is not necessary.
“It therefore you have been
faithful in the use of unrighteous
mammon, who will entrust the true
riches to you?” (Luke 16:11)
45. Thoroughness vs. incompleteness
Realizing that each of our tasks will be
reviewed and rewarded by God.
“The mind of the prudent
acquire knowledge, and the ear of the
wise seeks knowledge.” (Proverbs 18:15)
46. Tolerance vs. prejudice
Viewing every person as a valuable
individual whom God created and
loves.
“Make my joy complete by
being of the same mind, maintaining the
same love, united in spirit, intent on one
purpose.” (Philemon 2:2)
47. Truthfulness vs. deception
Earning future trust by accurately
reporting facts.
“Therefore, laying aside
falsehood, speak truth, each one of
you, with his neighbor, for we are
members of one another.” (Ephesians 4:25)
48. Wisdom vs. natural inclinations
Seeing and responding to life situations
from God's frame of reference.
“The fear of the Lord is the
beginning of wisdom, and the
knowledge of the Holy One is
understanding.” (Proverbs 9:10)
49. Virtue vs. impurity
The influence God is having on others
through my life regardless of my past
failures.
“Seeing that His power has
granted to us everything pertaining to
life and Godliness, through the true
knowledge of Him who called us by His
glory and excellence.” (2 Peter 1:3)
Institute in Basic Life Principles, Inc. (IBLP), Rebuilder’s Guide, p. 170-175
Star & Hans
(by Hans)
Marriage takes continual work! When Star and I first met we were “In Love”—at least we thought we were. Very quickly after we got married and after the “Honeymoon Stage” of marriage Star and I started to have some problems. Star and I both had church backgrounds but were struggling with actually living out what we knew was right. We went to Church on Sunday, but usually with a hangover! Needless to say, we were straddling the fence. God didn’t let us stay in that condition. He allowed our marriage to get worse and worse. I had a control and an anger problem. Not a good combination!! When things got out of control, I became angry and abused Star verbally and sometimes even physically. . . .